Moving into the more serious parts of pledging, I thought it would be really important to speak to active sorority members and even alums about their experiences in their respective chapters. I reached out to some Kappa Deltas via my connections in the Her Campus Blogger Network, across my state and region, and even within my own chapter, and the following two interviews represent the best feedback I’ve gotten. Amber, shown in grey, is a member of the HCBN, and Alexa, shown in green, is my lovely pledge educator. Thanks ladies for taking the time to share such insightful information with a new member :)
What university do you attend?
Kappa Delta, Eta Upsilon at NC State
Kappa Delta, Epsilon Omega, University of Kentucky
When did you pledge?
What were your favorite and least favorite parts about the recruitment and pledging processes?
My favorite part of recruitment was bonding with my sisters and getting to know potential new members. My least favorite part of recruitment was the long hours – even though they are definitely worth it in the end.
I honestly love recruitment. I do like talking to the PNMs and getting to tell girls why I love being a KD, but the best part is the bonding that happens with your sisters. In the fall, we spend all day every day with our sisters for two weeks, and we are all working really hard to make sure our chapter succeeds. There really isn’t anything that bad I can think of on the top of my head. We did have realllllllllly long days during fall recruitment and we didn’t get a break to eat from 6 am to like 10pm. Except bites of food someone could throw in our mouths in the 10 minutes between parties. But I still thought it was fun. The spring recruitment is a lot of fun because we get to have more relaxed meetings with the girls, so we can really get to know them.
What is your favorite part of being an active member?
I’m an alum now, but my favorite part of being an active member was knowing that the friendships I made were going to last forever. As cheesy as it sounds, I truly found my sisters in Kappa Delta and I got to do amazing, fun things with my best friends.
My favorite part of being a KD is getting to be VP-Member Education. I am in charge of making sure everyone in our chapter is educated about KD, but I really love getting to educate our new members. I know how important it is to help the new members find their place in such a big chapter, and it is the most rewarding thing to see the new members fall in love with the best sorority ever!
What did you think about sororities before you joined? Did anything change after you did? If so, what?
I thought sororities were a good way to network and get to know people, but I had no idea that the people you meet are not only going to impact your life now, but also when you graduate from college.
The one thing that surprised me the most about joining a sorority, was how quickly KD felt like home. I immediately felt so welcomed and loved. By initiation, KD was a huge part of my life. I had made some of the best friends I’d ever had and knew that I could go to any of my sisters if I ever needed anything.
What is the best advice you have for new members?
Be yourself! Don’t be afraid to get to know everyone, including the seniors because they have the most experience and insight on how to make your experience invaluable.
GET INVOLVED! Do everything you can with your sisters. Visit the house just because. Come eat, study in the chapter room, take a break from your roommate, anything! Live in the house!! Hold a leadership position. Whether it be council, an appointed office, or a chair position, find something you are passionate about and take charge of it! Go to sisterhood events and intramural games. Be enthusiastic about rituals! The more you put into Kappa Delta, the more you will get out of it.
What is the most difficult part of being in a sorority?
Time management, especially if you’re on exec board. It’s worth it in the end and it teaches you how to manage your time.
Time management. Especially since I am on council, I always have something to work on for KD. I also have a lot to work on for nursing school. I am always so excited about working on my KD stuff, that I put off my school work.
Final Comments about Kappa Delta?
I love Kappa Delta more than I can explain. I still talk to my little and grand little every day multiple times, even though we are in different states. I still have a KD pin on my bookbag! Being a KD doesn’t stop once you graduate, because you’ll run into people who either were KDs or knew KDs and when you do it’s awesome. In my small group at law school, there were four (including me) KDs out of the 7 girls.
I haven’t even been a member of KD for two years, and I can honestly say that it’s been one of the best experiences of my life. I have the best big that always gives me the best hugs. I have the most perfect little that never fails to make me laugh. And I currently have an amazing spring pledge class that I am so excited to spend so much time with these next 6 weeks! KD has truly been a home away from home for me and has made going out of state for college an easy transition! I love everything about being a KD!
Alexa, Kappa Delta, University of Kentucky
Amber, Kappa Delta alum, NC State